how much of things escalating was building frustration on both sides? folks telling you helpful hints was frustrating you, and they were likely getting frustrated watching and trying to help in the only way they could... i undertsand about the using the hips issue. in my brief stints with fighting, i have fruustrated gunther, and other notables... i just don;t get the motion. doesn't sink into my brain pan. no matter how much practice i got. even having one cahp hold my hips and move them for me.(boy there was a photo op). the guys tend to turn of their ears when this simple thing gets ignored... and i can see where tensio and frustration would build.
glad to know i am not being a pain :) i do tend to worry about such things.
i did take the liberty of mentioning some of this to yog. his first comment was... well what did she expect? i sputtered. he went on th epoint out the one's expectations going into stuff can affect how happy one is with how things turn out. a prize tourney is usually a fairly serious thing. and few fighters tend to be light about fighting to begin with. he went on for a great length talking about his issues with fighting and how his approach to tourneys has given him grief because he takes a different tack than most.
i find that yog usually has interesting insights into the headspace of fighting. likely his background in sports. and i suspect whenever you want to talk to him he would be happy to do so. i will ask him if email is an option, if you are interested.
if you want to go the video route, okay. but i suspect that you likely have decent teachers out there. it's just that learning a different system of moving takes a while sometimes. the movements in fighting are different. just like learning to dance, i guess. i started a dance class a while back (it's gotten put on the shelf at the moment) but i always giggle, because i know i have no where near the sesnse of co ordination that others do. some teachers get frustrated and over helpful. others understand that i am there for the fun, and i realize that i have a longer learning curve than most of their other students.
having someone you care watch creates performance anxiety. pure and simple. and yog would likely talk about the tourney mindset and headspace, because i gather it's a different thing than fighting in a battle, melee, or fight practice. more pressure and some thought processes get impaired. perhaps the differnece that you are sensing?
i am wondering what the difference in having someone you know fighting makes? did not having that make the experience more unknown and scarey (if only on a subconscious level)?
ananlyzing your reactions is the first step to understanding them. i have had way too many therapy sessions about stuff in my life :) once one starts to recognize what the triggers are, one can start to analyze why they are triggers. and it sounds like you are already doing that. next is figuring out how to cope and overcome them. and trying to do so. but identifying is half the battle. the rest is not easy, but downhill comparatively speaking.
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Date: 2005-09-04 03:09 am (UTC)how much of things escalating was building frustration on both sides?
folks telling you helpful hints was frustrating you, and they were likely getting frustrated watching and trying to help in the only way they could... i undertsand about the using the hips issue. in my brief stints with fighting, i have fruustrated gunther, and other notables... i just don;t get the motion. doesn't sink into my brain pan. no matter how much practice i got. even having one cahp hold my hips and move them for me.(boy there was a photo op). the guys tend to turn of their ears when this simple thing gets ignored... and i can see where tensio and frustration would build.
glad to know i am not being a pain :) i do tend to worry about such things.
i did take the liberty of mentioning some of this to yog. his first comment was... well what did she expect? i sputtered. he went on th epoint out the one's expectations going into stuff can affect how happy one is with how things turn out. a prize tourney is usually a fairly serious thing. and few fighters tend to be light about fighting to begin with. he went on for a great length talking about his issues with fighting and how his approach to tourneys has given him grief because he takes a different tack than most.
i find that yog usually has interesting insights into the headspace of fighting. likely his background in sports. and i suspect whenever you want to talk to him he would be happy to do so. i will ask him if email is an option, if you are interested.
if you want to go the video route, okay. but i suspect that you likely have decent teachers out there. it's just that learning a different system of moving takes a while sometimes. the movements in fighting are different. just like learning to dance, i guess. i started a dance class a while back (it's gotten put on the shelf at the moment) but i always giggle, because i know i have no where near the sesnse of co ordination that others do. some teachers get frustrated and over helpful. others understand that i am there for the fun, and i realize that i have a longer learning curve than most of their other students.
having someone you care watch creates performance anxiety. pure and simple. and yog would likely talk about the tourney mindset and headspace, because i gather it's a different thing than fighting in a battle, melee, or fight practice. more pressure and some thought processes get impaired. perhaps the differnece that you are sensing?
i am wondering what the difference in having someone you know fighting makes? did not having that make the experience more unknown and scarey (if only on a subconscious level)?
ananlyzing your reactions is the first step to understanding them. i have had way too many therapy sessions about stuff in my life :) once one starts to recognize what the triggers are, one can start to analyze why they are triggers. and it sounds like you are already doing that. next is figuring out how to cope and overcome them. and trying to do so. but identifying is half the battle. the rest is not easy, but downhill comparatively speaking.