I've tried both the standard and duo-wrap versions of the Thirsties and have found they both stood up pretty well. Did you actually use the snaps on the front to adjust the rise? We didn't because by the time I bought them they fit just fine so we didn't need the snaps (I just paid the extra 50 cents for the duo wrap because I couldn't get lime green any other way and I have a thing for bright green right now). I'm thinking maybe the pulling on the fabric to use the snaps might cause wear?

I don't think I'd like a diaper service. By day 3 her diaper bin smells pretty ripe so it's better if I can wash every 2 days and not have it sitting around. What have you been using to keep the stink down?