After reading your posts for a while, I don't think that you're in danger of gaining too much weight - you are such an active person! You'll be even more active once your family addition arrives. Sure, there's genes, but there is also a personal choice. In any case, I wish you luck. But really, you do not sound like a powerless person to me. So I would guess you would use this "mindpower" to avoid this particular problem.
my 5 cents