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A lighter set of questions this week: it's all about guilty pleasures. You know, the things you do or eat or watch or listen to that you don't want to tell your friends about, because it's so un-cool.

From the [ profile] altfriday5:

Name your guilty pleasure when it comes to:

1. Music. Spice girls, Britney Spears, brainless, happy fluff.

2. Food and/or drink. When ordering a nice, healthy salad at a fast food place, would you like fries with that - oh god yes!

3. TV and/or movies. I love House Doctor. There's something sinfully fun about watching the disasters other people are trying and failing at selling because their personal hygiene, common sense or decorating skills are so ridiculously lacking
Example: when looking at a hallway come-dining area the couple has painted yellow from the waist up (including the ceiling), turquoise from the waist down, with a bright red chair rail "what were you going for with these paint colours?" "We were thinking 'Mexican Restaurant' because that's really fun", um, yeah.
Example 2: Can we make sure your rottweiller is penned up in the yard when people come to see the house because he is intimidating?

4. Activities. None to speak of. Sure, I do a lot of strange things, but nothing I won't eagerly talk about. The only things I wouldn't want to talk about aren't activities I enjoy - like housecleaning, who wants to either do or talk about that? Maybe bowling, but since I moved away from my sister and her free-bowling hook-up I haven't really done that at all. And rather than being ashamed, I used to talk loudly about the coolness of being able to bowl for free. And about how it's a great sport because if you're good, that's fun, and if you suck, it's a perfect fox and sour grapes, "well who would want to be good at this geeky sport anyway" kinda thing.

5. Reading material. Reading? I'm supposed to have time for reading? I guess the Philipa Gregory book "The Other Boleyn Girl" (relatively poorly written historical romance fiction) on my honeymoon was the last book I read, so that's it. Webcomics maybe? I subscribe to Martha Stewart's "Everyday Food", does that count? I guess my worship at the temple of Martha has to count for something.

The Questioner says: Don't forget your links!
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From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. Have you ever quit a job? Tell us a little about it.
Donut shop after maybe a month - got tired of smelling like a cigarette butt.
Battery store (yes, there is such a lame thing as a store that sells nothing but batteries) - worked for an ex, wasn't an ex when I started, and it wasn't a pretty break-up. But there were other reasons too. Company policy was actually to lie on the timesheets about hours to avoid giving legally required breaks, and arranging things so you couldn't even go to the washroom for three to five hours at a stretch, so there were other problems.
Laser tag place - boss was later fired for assault on an employee, so that may give you an idea what working there was like.
A lab job where everything was okay except one member of the lab was an abusive, sexist pig who was harassing me and I eventually had enough of him.
A retail job I quit to go to Australia (I only got the job to raise money to go, and I had the plane booked before I started there, I just neglected to mention it, anyway, I worked to the end of the Christmas season and then left, probably saving them the ordeal of firing someone and saved someone else their job)

2. Have you ever been fired? Tell us a little about it.
Again, many. Entirely retail, mostly end of Christmas season, store closure and the like. One incident of idiotically hiring me to work the one day of the week I told them in the interview that I could not work - or at least that was the reason they gave.

3. Have you ever been bought as part of a merger or takeover? Tell us a little about it.

4. Of all the jobs you've had, which job were you saddest to leave? Why?
The lab job. I loved my supervisor and I really wanted to do the right thing and come through for him as a successful grad student. I'm still not entirely sure I made the right decision. He offered to take the other guy to task because I was perfectly honest about why I quit. But I was also perfectly honest that I feared if he knew I was the reason he didn't get his doctorate that he might do something really stupid like stalk or kill me. There's still a part of me that wonders if I shouldn't have just toughed it out until he defended six months later and worked towards being a prof like I was planning at the time.

5. Of all the jobs you've had, which job were you happiest to leave? Why?
Has to be either the one where I was working for the ex or the laser tag place. With the laser tag place I actually waited to time it so there were 3 or 4 or us (of a staff of 12 I think) leaving in the same week. I actually tried to make it as painful as possible to make up for the misery they'd put me through. Though finally getting out from under the eyes of the ex was also a great relief.
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From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. Are you now or have you ever been involved in the raising of children? What are/were the circumstances (i.e., yours biologically or not, living in the same house or not, etc.)?


2. Why did you have children? ("have" meaning "be a primary caregiver for", not necessarily "be involved in the biological production thereof") For those that don't have kids, do you expect to have them in the future? Why or why not?

Maybe. Not sold on the idea by any means, so certainly can't come up with a why. My mother seems to think a childless life isn't one worth living since our sole purpose should be to have children, otherwise we're just being selfish and self-centred and not doing the world any good. Not sure I agree with that train of thought, but don't really have much thoughts on the matter myself, other than the realization that at least right now, I am selfish and self-centred and a kid would really cramp my style. Taking the Scarlett approach on this one... I'll think about it tomorrow.

3. What are your feelings about creating your own biological children? Is it right? Wrong? Something you feel/felt compelled to do, or not? Something you wish you were able to do?

By my knowledge, no reason I shouldn't be able to breed, so haven't thought much on it. But, do I feel it's wrong to breed if I'm not going to take responsibility for the end result, yes. If I have a kid, I'm stuck with it. So creating my own biological children is okay with me in theory, but foisting them off on others is not.

4. What are your feelings about adopting children? Is it something you would or have considered (or have done)?

No. I'm not sure I want my own kids, why on earth would I take on someone else's? Adoption should be reserved for those people who actually actively WANT kids. I'm not among them so I shouldn't compete with them for the limited resource that is unwanted babies. And like I said above, no kid of mine is going up for adoption. If I have to carry it nine months, and want it bady enough to go through all that I'm not giving it up. And if I don't want to keep it, I'm too selfish to give up 9 months and my figure for someone else's happiness.

5. Would you consider or have you donated your eggs or sperm for the purpose of producing children?

No. The idea of there being a piece of me out there with whom I have no contact creeps me out. Not to mention that while sperm donation for men is 30 seconds and some p0rn, for women, egg donation is a little more involved. Hormones, surgery, lots of not-fun-ness. I'd have to really, really love you to put my selfish little self through that ordeal, and I don't love complete strangers that way. If you're family or my bestest friend and you need an egg, MAYBE we'll talk, but I don't forsee that coming up.
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This line of questioning was proposed by [info]tormenta.

From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. Which is the best birthday you've ever had? Why?

Probably one of the ones in my childhood, with the parties, cake and toys. Can't think of a particular one. Can't really remember any to be honest.

2. Which is the worst birthday you've ever had? Why?

In Australia, separated from family by half a planet, wanting to break up with the guy I was living with, projects due at school with no hope of finishing them on time, and gained so much weight since the move that I split the skirt I had planned to wear to dinner when I crouched down to pick something up. At least that happened BEFORE I left the house and got to the restaurant. The whole month was bad really, the birthday just happened to be in it.

3. What do you expect to have happen on a typical birthday? (i.e., you expect to get presents, you expect people to wish you a happy birthday, you expect to have a party, etc.) How do you feel if these expectations are not met?

I expect to get fed and not have to cook the dinner myself. Other than that, I am pretty indifferent. It's just a day like any other. As a child it was all about the presents, the cake, and another year to add to the roster. As an adult, I neither anticipate nor dread its coming. I have the power to just buy the things I really want for myself, and I don't need a special day to justify it. Age is just a number, it has no relevance any more (I am as old or as young as I look, dress and act, the number doesn't change that, time is gradual, you don't acquire the whole year's worth of "age" on a single day). I look forward to the dinner out, I always get that, thus the expectations are never going to go unmet.

4. How did your family celebrate your birthday when you were a child?

The usual. Party, cake, candles, pressies. Nothing unusual.

5. You have infinite amounts of all resources. Describe your ideal birthday.

I'd be on vacation in the carribbean or anywhere tropical really. I'd want my dogs with me, playing on the beach. I'd want an endless supply of perfect drinks. I'd want lobster or crab legs for dinner. I'd want everyone I love to be able to experience the same pleasure, but not to have to dote on me. They can come to paradise, but they don't owe me their time. They can pop in and say hello if they want, but I really just want them to enjoy themselves doing whatever makes them happy. It's really not about me. If I want to command your attention, I'll get it myself, I don't need a calendar to enforce it.
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This week it's all about space -- your personal, just-me space.

From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. What do you consider your personal space (e.g. your bed, your room, your house, your car, your office)? (if you're partnered with someone(s), you may choose to consider your shared space as your personal space, as you will)

My car, my house, my desk at work and the desk next to mine that was empty but which is now mine too. I share my space with my husband pretty much without qualms. My only issues happen when he messes up my space or runs over something of mine with his wheeled office chair. The sewing room however is mine. He is not allowed to put anything in there because, frankly, it's too full as it is.

2. Would you like more? Less? Different?

More of course. My sewing room is totally having issues, my closet is stocked to the gills and there's only 1 1/2 feet around my bed because I have a big bed and a small "master" bedroom. The living/dining/kitchen are fine, but the bedrooms could use a little more.

3. What do you do to mark your space (e.g. lock the door, put up posters, let fly the hounds of hell, and more importantly, their dog hair)?

I do let fly the hounds, complete with fur, though the hounds are even banned from the sewing room (too many tempting things to turn into chew toys). I always lock my space when I leave it and usually keep my house locked when I'm in it. I have also taken to locking the gate to my front yard to keep away "helpful" people like door to door salespeople and anyone who wants to help me find Jesus.

4. How comfortable are you with having other people in your space?

Depends on the people and the condition of the space. I'm comfortable letting practially anyone in my home when it's in good shape, otherwise, I get antsy. Any room is the same as any other, as long as they're tidy. If guests want the full tour, including bedroom, fine, but the messy, disasterous sewing room is out of bounds.

5. How much personal space did you have growing up?

My own room, and I later claimed half of the basement as art studio/sewing rooms. I think I had more space then than I do out on my own.
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From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. Name a movie that makes you happy. Why?

Go. I nearly piss myself every time the accident scene comes up. Galaxy Quest and Office Space give me warm fuzzies too. I'm a comedy girl.

2. Name a movie that makes you sad. Why?

I cried the first time I watched Titanic, don't ask, I was young and stupid. Now, I'd have to say Disney's Tarzan. It made my dad really sad when the silverback died and that carried over to me. Not to mention my mother decided the song was going to be the theme song of me going away to Australia, so I cry every time I hear it now.

3. Name a movie that makes you scared (try to stay away from horror or suspense movies). Why?

I don't dig on fear for fun, so I can't think of any. Not even if I allow myself horror or suspense. What Lies Beneath creeped me out terribly because whatever that drug he uses on her is, it's been used on me. Nothing like waking up from surgery and only being able to move your eyes to totally scare the bejesus out of you. C'mon legs, neck, arms, I know you're all out there somewhere.

4. Name a movie that makes you angry. Why?

Dances with Wolves, Lord of the Rings or any other movie that was critically acclaimed that I just didn't get or didn't like at all. I hate seeing great movies and great actors whose only sin was to be funny or entertaining passed-over for "drama".

5. Name a movie that turns you on (try to stay away from something that is normally considered pr0n or erotica). Why?

George of the Jungle because Brendan Frasier is just the world's best eye-candy. He did it for me in Blast from the Past too.
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From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. Have you ever had some sort of commitment ceremony that bound you to another person(s)? (betrothal, handfasting, religious or civil marriage, collaring, etc.) How many times?

Once. Marriage

2. How likely are you to have a commitment ceremony at some point in your life? Or, if you are currently in a ceremonially-bound relationship, why did you choose that option?

Yes. Traditional kind of girl.

3. Have you ever been "married" in the eyes of a government? How many times? Is legal marriage an option where you live for you and your preferred mate(s)?

Again, just once, very traditional. The wedding itself wasn't. Eight people total including self and husband, wearing a black dress (I look like hell in white) and on a Monday night, but otherwise pretty normal.

4. How likely are you to be legally married at some point in your life, if you are not? Why or why not? Or, if you are legally married, why did you choose that option?

We moved. I wanted commitment. I don't cross a continent if you aren't sure you want to spend the rest of your life with me. That seems like a fair deal. Marriage is a way of declaring to the world, "yes, I'm sure". And there's the detail of health coverage and tax benefits and all that legal goodness. I can't tell you the trouble I had trying to do administrative stuff when we weren't legally married yet (the move pre-dated the marriage by a few months since we had only two week's notice on the move).

5. In your opinion, what purpose does "the institution of marriage" serve in society? How does it need to change or not change?

Major Purpose: Mostly legal, tax benefits, inheritance, health coverage and the like.
Side-benefit: gives you a little something to mull over before you throw your hands up and walk out.

I think it should include any two people over the age of consent. I don't care what sex they are or whether or not they intend to procreate. I don't think it should extend beyond two people because there is a lot more room for abuse of some things in the system. If you can only marry one person at a time, you are a lot less likely to sponsor an immigrant through an empty marriage for example. But I don't see anything wrong with gays or lesbians marrying. I see a lot more wrong with celebrity marriages that can be counted in hours rather than days. I don't think the divorce rate is any good reason not to get married. I think it is a warning that you actually have to work at it. I think you should go in thinking you're going to succeed as long as you work at it. Neither my husband's, nor my parents are divorced and they both did over 30 years so far, so we have good models for success. If you go in expecting failure, you're probably going to make that happen, and maybe you just shouldn't go there.

Side note: the questions seemed repetitive and redundant. It wasn't really five questions, more like one long one. Or maybe two questions, that last one could stand alone I guess.
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Found this thing, kinda like the idea, going to start at the beginning and skip weeks that are not relevant or interesting until I've caught up.

From the [ profile] altfriday5:

1. What gender do you consider yourself?

2. Is this the gender you were assigned at birth?
Yeah, duh.

3. Do you like being your current gender? Why or why not?
Again, yeah duh. I like the flexibility of being a woman. I can be the stereotypical girly-girl or I can pick up some power tools and fix stuff and I can do both on any given day and not be thought less of. I think guys have a lot to live up to in terms of not being able to be themselves at all times. If they're a man's man, they're expected to be a man's man all the time, no spending an afternoon in the bubble bath, no wandering through a fabric store stroking the silks. Sure, they can let loose with a killer belch or scratch in public (can't say I'd really want to or that I'm impressed when they do) but they can't do any of the stuff that really matters to me. They can't have a break-down, they can't have a day where they feel "girly" and want to pamper themselves or just not be the one that squishes the bug. They miss out on all those great self-indulgences that make being a girl great. And if they're a stereotypical gay guy, they're expected to be girly all the time. Well dressed (no sweats on lazy days), delicate (no power tools or fight club) and refined. i like the flexibility of being able to take or relinquish control when it suits me, not having to put up some macho front. Sure, times are a changin' and the metrosexual man is getting a little closer to that greatness that is womanhood, but I still like being a girl. Of course, that's just the way I see it, but this thing is about our views and opinions right?

4. If you could change one thing about how society perceives/constructs your gender, what would it be? (don't go nuts here, I know the response to this could make for several doctoral theses)
I would like there to be more "ideal" body types. The girly mags always seem to feature the same chick over and over. The tiny waist, non-existent ass and huge boobs. I know that doesn't do it for all guys or I would have been single a lot more than I have been. So why is this "ideal" promoted so strongly?

5. Everyone gets their ideas of what it means to be "a man" or "a woman" from somewhere (parents, movies, magazines, books). What was the single biggest influence on your gender identity?
Probably my mother. Dressed nice most days, wore some make-up but very subtle, but still knew well enough to wear sneakers when going to the mall, to wear nasty old sweats when painting the house, and to have her own set of tools because she's the only one that ever gets around to fixing anything and dad just loses all of his. Also smart and knowledgeable and willing to speak her mind, not hang back and let the man take all the credit or have all the ideas.


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